The Dolphin Parent – Dr. Shimi Kang MD.

The Dolphin Parent

In The Dolphin Parent, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, expert in human motivation, and mother of three Dr. Shimi Kang provides a guide to the art and science of inspiring children to develop their own internal drive and lifelong personal aspirations.

Drawing on the latest neuroscience and behavioral research, Dr. Kang transcends cultural limits and shows why authoritarian “tiger parents” and permissive “jellyfish parents” actually hinder self-motivation. She proposes a powerful new and universal parenting model: the intelligent, strong, joyful, and highly social dolphin. Dolphin parents focus on maintaining balance in their children’s lives to compassionately, yet authoritatively guide them toward the key 21st century skills of “CQ”—creativity, communication, collaboration, and critical thinking.

Combining irrefutable science with unforgettable real-life stories from around the world, The Dolphin Parent walks readers through Dr. Kang’s four-part method for cultivating self-motivation. As the fifth child of immigrant parents who struggled to give their children the “best” in life—Dr. Kang’s mother could not read and she was never enrolled in a single extra-curricular activity—she argues that by trusting our deepest natural intuition about what is best for our kids, we will allow them to develop key traits of adaptability, community-mindedness, and CQ to empower them to thrive in our increasingly competitive and complex world.

The Dolphin Parent has been translated into German, Korean, Thai, Vietnanese, Slovenian, Simple and Traditional Chinese.

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“What a wonderful contribution to the emerging evolution of conscious parenting! An encyclopedia of research and insights to help parents navigate their parenting journeys!” – Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and Out of Control

“With insight, professional expertise and unfailing instinct, Dr. Shimi Kang offers us essential guidance in restoring sanity to 21st Century parenting. Compassionate to parent and child, loving and reasoned in its approach, The Dolphin Way is highly readable, emotionally nurturing and intellectually satisfying.” – Gabor Maté M.D., co-Author, Hold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Need To Matter More Than Peers

“If you’re looking for effective but practical strategies to calm the chaos in your kids’ lives, foster their internal motivation, and truly prepare them to function successfully in the adult world—read this book! Using concrete evidence, Dr. Kang shows why ‘Tiger’ approaches to parenting do more harm than good. Her Dolphin approach will have you and your kids cheering. Highly recommended!” – Amy McCready, Founder of and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time